Was your goal to change your spouse or change you?
Many of us just finished September’s 30-day husband encouragement challenge. On October 1st I asked my husband if he thought I was extra encouraging during the challenge. He promptly replied, “I didn’t notice.” Talk about a crushing response.
Then he clarified. He said he often finds me encouraging and that it was a compliment that September felt like normal interaction between us. Talk about an uplifting response!
I am a very blessed woman to be married to such a wonderful and thoughtful man.
I still believe the month’s exercise was beneficial despite the fact he didn’t notice an external change. I carefully chose my words and increased prayer over him. I reigned in my thoughts when they headed down a negative path. These are internal changes not easily seen.
September was about my mind and about the injustices on which I allow my mind to dwell. Anger explodes if I meditate on perceived wrongs. Arrogance grows when I inflate myself. Intolerance blooms when I focus on annoying habits. Sin begins in my mind, fed by the thoughts I allow to take root in my heart.
In the end, the 30-day husband encouragement challenge was more about me than him. Did I see change? You bet. Change in me.