My primary ministry in life crowds around my dining room table like a ravenous herd every night. My husband and children are both my greatest blessing and greatest ministry opportunity. Caring for them is a privilege bestowed upon me as wife and mother.
I believe God simultaneously called Kevin and me into ministry. Kevin’s calling was clear – he is a pastor. I, on the other hand, took years to recognize the specific areas in which I was equipped and called serve. Now, eighteen years and three kids later, I know God has called me to meet Kevin’s needs, to meet the needs of our children, and to serve Him personally.
God has called me to serve Kevin, to free him to provide for the church and God’s people. I have adopted Jackie Oesch’s statement as my personal ministry statement. “I will bless my husband by taking care of the details of our life, including our children, so he will be healthier and better equipped to serve others.”
God has called me to serve our children and care for their needs in such a way that they will grow to know and desire to serve our Lord and Saviour. To produce this kind of fruit in my children’s lives I must remain positive and excited about my own relationship with the Lord and about my personal areas of service. In no way should my interests or expectations from others overtake our children in importance.
There is precious little time leftover after filling the two primary service roles to which God has called me. As a result, I choose my areas of personal service carefully and I refuse ministry requests that threaten to cloud my focus on Kevin and our children.
According to Stuart Briscoe, God does not call us to both marriage and ministry knowing they counteract each other. He continues to say that “marriage and ministry were both invented by God, motivated by love, and expressed in service. Marriage and ministry operate on the same principle of loving service and should therefore in no way conflict, compete, or counteract. They should blend.”